Relationship Issues & Low Self-Esteem Counselling for Women in South West London

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Hello, and welcome to my website! My name is Spini. I’m a qualified therapist offering one-to-one counselling for adults aged 18+ across the UK, and I’m passionate about supporting people find clarity and confidence in their lives. If you’re feeling stuck in unhealthy patterns, struggling with low self-esteem, or finding it hard to connect with others, I’m here to support you. I understand how overwhelming it can feel to face these challenges alone. My approach is warm, compassionate, and tailored to your unique needs. Whether you’re navigating relationship challenges, low self-worth, anxiety, or major life changes, I’m here to provide a safe space where you can feel seen, heard, and supported. In my counselling practice, I take a personalized, client-centred approach to therapy. I understand that each woman’s journey is unique, which is why I work collaboratively with you to create a therapeutic plan that suits your individual needs, goals, and experiences.

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Individual relationship counselling offers a safe space to explore and develop both your strengths and areas for growth. It can help you build deeper self-awareness, improve communication, and create more meaningful, fulfilling relationships. Together, we’ll explore how you relate to yourself and others, understand the impact of past experiences, and work on building healthier connections for the future. By developing a better understanding of yourself, you'll feel more confident in navigating your relationships and managing emotional triggers, allowing you to foster more positive and supportive connections.

How To Strengthen your Relationships | Counselling and Psychotherapy Sessions | SWCounselling | Counselling for Relationship Issues in London

My counselling services are for any individual adults who might be facing relationship difficulties or wants to strengthen relationships they already have, maintain or grow their relationship with family, friends, or anyone in a romantic relationship or wants to understand themselves better. 

Through self-reflection and support, you can address the root causes of low self-esteem and begin the journey to rebuilding a positive sense of self-worth. This process can empower you to:

  • Regain confidence.
  • Foster healthier, more meaningful connections with others.
  • Overcome barriers and unlock your potential.

Your self-esteem is not fixed—it can grow and change with the right guidance and effort. You are capable of building a stronger, more resilient version of yourself.

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What Clients Say About Spini Watts Counselling

"It's my first time doing therapy and I didn't know what to expect. Spini was really helpful! She is incredibly kind, calm and caring. She immediately helped me feel at ease when talking and sharing my experiences and feelings. She is a great listener and also gave me insight and perspectives that helped me to understand some things and that I could also do research on. I highly recommend Spini. She's awesome!"

– N.

"My experience with Spini was extremely profitable. Her kind nature and warmness made me feel totally at ease immediately, she showed genuine care and real desire to help. Her knowledge, wisdom and capability to understand how you really feel were so important during our sessions, she offered some very insightful observations which helped me greatly. I highly recommend Spini as a therapist."

– SG.

"I found Spini very warm and easy to talk to. She has been really helpful and given me lots of valuable advice, and she's also flexible around your availability and needs. I highly recommend Spini, especially if you are new to therapy and feeling anxious about it."

– KJ.

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Supporting You to Build Confidence and Healthier Relationships

As a woman, you deserve to feel seen, heard, and valued in every aspect of your life—especially in your relationships and how you see yourself. If you're struggling with relationship challenges or battling low self-esteem, know that you're not alone. I'm here to support you break free from the patterns that no longer serve you and guide you toward healing and empowerment.

Relationship Struggles? Let’s Build Healthier Connections.

Whether you're feeling stuck in a toxic relationship, struggling to communicate your needs, or recovering from a difficult breakup, I specialize in helping women like you navigate and heal from relationship difficulties. Together, we will explore the patterns that keep you in unhealthy cycles and work to rebuild trust, communication, and boundaries. My goal is to empower you to create loving, respectful, and balanced relationships—whether it’s with a partner, family, or friends.

Low Self-Esteem? You Deserve to Feel Confident and Worthy.

Low self-esteem can hold you back in many areas of life—especially in relationships. If you feel like you're not good enough, struggle with self-doubt, or constantly seek approval from others, this is your time to change. In our sessions, we will work on building your confidence, self-worth, and inner strength so you can face life's challenges with resilience and self-love. By addressing the root causes of your low self-esteem, we will unlock the path to a healthier, more confident you.

What You Can Expect from Counselling with Me

 

  • Compassionate Support: I provide a safe, non-judgmental space where you can speak openly about your struggles and find solutions that work for you.
  • Personalized Guidance: Every woman’s journey is different, which is why my approach is tailored to your unique experiences, goals, and needs.
  • Empowerment: We’ll work together to uncover your strengths and build the emotional tools you need to overcome obstacles and embrace your worth.
  • Practical Strategies: From building self-esteem to navigating relationship issues, I’ll equip you with actionable techniques to make lasting changes.

 

 

Why a Female Therapist Matters: The Power of Shared Understanding

As a woman, you’ve likely encountered challenges that are specific to your gender. These challenges may include navigating societal expectations, balancing personal and professional life, or facing unique relationship dynamics. Having a female therapist who understands these issues firsthand can make a significant difference in the therapeutic experience.

  • As a woman, I understand the unique pressures we face in today’s world—from relationships and career to self-image. I’m here to support you with the understanding and empathy that only another woman can offer
  • Our sessions are a safe space where you can express yourself freely, without fear of judgment. As a woman, I am committed to providing you with the understanding, compassion, and respect you deserve
  • As a woman, I am well-versed in the challenges we face when it comes to relationships, self-worth, and balancing all the demands placed on us. My approach is specifically designed to help women like you navigate and overcome these obstacles.
  • I believe in empowering women to embrace their strength and reclaim their confidence. Together, we will work on cultivating your inner power so that you can live a life full of self-respect and healthy relationships.
  • I work from a feminist perspective that honors your individual story and recognizes the impact of gender-based challenges. Together, we’ll address the root causes of your struggles and help you break free from limiting beliefs.

Personalized, Client-Centred Therapy for Every Woman

No two women have the same life experiences, and no single approach works for everyone. I understand that every woman's journey is different. That’s why I offer personalized therapy sessions tailored to your unique experiences, challenges, and goals. Whether you're struggling with self-esteem, relationship difficulties, or personal growth, I will work with you to create a therapeutic approach that best suits your needs. My approach is designed to meet you where you are and help you get to where you want to be—on your own terms, at your own pace. Whether you’re looking for a solution-focused approach or need a more emotionally-driven, introspective style of therapy, I offer the flexibility to integrate various methods that suit your personal preferences. Women are often balancing multiple aspects of their lives—career, family, relationships—and have individual experiences, values, and needs.

PSYCHOEDUCATION- Why Psychoeducation Matters in Therapy

Therapy for Family Conflict, Relationship Issues, and Building Self-Esteem

I offer psychoeducation as part of our work together—helping you understand the “why” behind certain behaviors or emotions. Providing you with practical tools and insights to better understand your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Whether it’s managing stress, improving your relationships, or building a healthier sense of self, you’ll gain the knowledge and skills to make lasting changes in your life.

If you’re struggling with family conflict, relationship difficulties, or low self-esteem, I offer a compassionate and personalized approach to therapy that can help you make positive changes in your life. By combining Person-Centered Therapy, Psychodynamic Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and Transactional Analysis (TA), I provide evidence-based tools and support to help you overcome these challenges.

Together, we’ll work to understand the root causes of your struggles, improve your emotional well-being, and help you build more fulfilling relationships with yourself and others. My goal is to create a safe and supportive space where you can explore your feelings and start to heal from past hurts, while building the confidence and self-worth you deserve.

 

What is Psychoeducation

Psychoeducation in Therapy: Empowering Your Journey to Emotional Well-Being

Psychoeducation in therapy involves providing clients with valuable insights and knowledge about their mental health, emotions, and behavioral patterns. This approach helps clients better understand their struggles—whether it’s anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, or relationship issues—and equips them with practical tools to manage these challenges effectively.

Through psychoeducation, we explore the underlying causes of your emotional experiences and teach you coping strategies that can help you handle stress, reduce anxiety, and build resilience. This process helps you develop emotional regulation skills, improve communication, and create healthier relationships with yourself and others.

What Psychoeducation Can Do for You

How Psychoeducation Enhances Therapy:

  • Psychoeducation helps you feel more empowered by giving you knowledge about your mental health.
  • With a clearer understanding of your challenges, you can apply practical tools in real-life situations.
  • It creates a safe space where we work together to improve your emotional well-being, self-care, and overall quality of life.
  • You’ll gain clarity around how your past and present experiences affect your mental health and how to make lasting, positive changes.
  • Increase Self-Awareness: Understand the thoughts, emotions, and behaviors that impact your daily life and emotional well-being.
  • Develop Healthy Coping Strategies: Learn stress management techniques and ways to cope with anxiety and negative emotions effectively.
  • Boost Self-Esteem: Gain insights into your self-worth and work towards improving self-image and confidence.
  • Improve Emotional Regulation: Understand your emotional triggers and reactions, and develop healthier ways to manage them.
  • Strengthen Relationships: Learn conflict resolution skills and how to communicate more effectively, contributing to healthier and more fulfilling relationships.
  • Prevent Future Challenges: Recognize early signs of emotional distress and mental health issues so you can take proactive steps to avoid escalation.

 

How Therapy Can Help You

 

  • Family Therapy: If you’re facing tension or conflict within your family, I’ll help you gain insight into the underlying issues and provide strategies to improve communication and rebuild trust. Family conflict resolution can help create stronger connections and a more peaceful home environment.

  • Relationship Therapy: Struggling with communication or feeling disconnected in your relationships? Together, we’ll work on understanding your emotional needs, improving your connection, and resolving negative patterns that may be contributing to relationship issues.

  • Building Self-Esteem: If you struggle with low self-esteem, I’ll support you in developing a more positive and confident sense of self. Through therapy, we’ll work on overcoming negative self-talk, boosting your self-worth, and learning to set boundaries and advocate for your needs.

  • Building Healthier Relationships: Whether you’re navigating family conflict, relationship issues, or struggles with communication, I’ll help you develop practical strategies to create more connected, fulfilling relationships.

  • Strengthening Self-Esteem: If you’re dealing with low self-worth or self-doubt, we’ll explore the underlying causes of these feelings and work together to build your confidence and improve your self-image.

  • Navigating Conflict: We’ll explore ways to better understand your emotional responses, improve communication with others, and resolve conflict in a constructive way.

  • Empowerment and Clarity: If you’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed, I’ll help you gain clarity, build confidence, and work towards a more balanced, positive outlook.

 

 

Therapeutic Approaches Tailored to You

  • Person-Centered Therapy: This approach focuses on creating a warm, non-judgmental space where you are heard and accepted for who you truly are. By exploring your thoughts and feelings at your own pace, we can work together to uncover solutions and make meaningful change.

  • Psychodynamic Therapy: We’ll take a deeper look at your past experiences and how they may be influencing your current relationships and behaviors. Understanding these connections can bring healing and help you break free from unhelpful patterns.

  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): If you experience anxiety, depression, or negative thinking, we can work on changing those patterns. CBT helps you identify unhelpful thoughts and replace them with more balanced, realistic ways of thinking that can improve your emotional and mental well-being.

  • Transactional Analysis (TA): In our sessions, we’ll explore your communication patterns and emotional responses to better understand your interactions with others. By gaining insight into how you relate to authority figures, family members, and loved ones, you can develop healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

What to Expect in Our Sessions

In our work together, I will support you:

  • Gain insights into your emotions, behaviours, and relationship patterns.
  • Understand the root causes of your struggles, whether they relate to family, romantic relationships, or self-esteem.
  • Develop practical tools to help you communicate more effectively and handle conflict with greater ease.
  • Build a stronger sense of self-worth and develop confidence in yourself and your relationships.

The goal is to help you feel heard and understood while providing the tools and support you need to create positive change in your life.

Why This Approach Works

By focusing on you as a person, I tailor the therapy to meet your specific needs at that moment, ensuring you get the support that’s right for you. Together, we will build a collaborative relationship that fosters trust and understanding, creating a safe space for you to explore and grow.

Frequently asked questions

I Am In A Relationship And I Am Not Happy

-Perhaps you feel that you cant connect with each other anymore

- Do you feel that you can't communicate your needs

-You might be feeling bored, lack of trust or that you are not yourself 

- Are you feeling anxious, stuck or fighting over reasons you don't understand

-Perhaps there was infedelity committed before and you suspect that it might be happening again

I Am Single, I Want To Be In A Relationship And Not Happy

-Are you recovering from a breakup and want to explore and process what has happened

-Are you anxious of rejection or falling into the same cycle of repeated unhelpful relationships and want to understand their origin

-Are you worried that you might end up in relationship you might end up regretting

I Am Having Family Issues

Family dynamics impact our development and how we see ourselves in later life, influence the relationships we form, how we interact with the world, and how we behave and interact with others. Given the dynamic quality of any family, each one will operate differently, contain its own culture, rules, beliefs, and values.. Below is a list of some common family issues.

  • a change to the familial structure due to death or illness
  • difficult behaviours with teenagers or older children
  • feeling of loss when children leave home
  • an unwanted pregnancy or abortion
  • discovery of an infidelity or affair
  • communication breakdowns
  • Rejection or abandonment from a cregiver

How Triggers Might Affect Your Relationships

A trigger is a reply of an early experience. The situation we are in, may be that another person has brought back the memory, but may not be responsible for the feeling. We re-live unressolved situations, but this usually goes outside of our unconscious awareness. The trigger is the experience instigated by someone else, however, our reaction is our responsibility which is based on our past experiences, and the trigger alerts us to say to us that, the issue is an unfinished business that needs to be addressed, processed and resolved. Recognising and thinking about what triggered you can help manage situations which have the potential to produce conflict. Triggers varies from person to person and they can be internal or external.

How Your Attachment Style Can Affect Your Relationships

 

Our early bonds shape how we connect. When these bonds are insecure, it can lead to attachment issues impacting relationships and self-esteem. Your attachment style informs the way you relate to other people, to yourself, to your work, and relationships. So many struggles’ people face lead back to their attachment style, which is formed in infancy. You may feel co-dependent, clingy, and needy with partners, friends, Or you may struggle to connect with others, find it easiest to withdraw into yourself, and avoid emotions. These patterns affect the way we relate in relationships during both easy and challenging moments. 

Attachment theory shows how, from a very young age, having a secure attachment is like having a safe platform from which we can venture out and explore the world. A secure attachment teaches us that we can trust and depend on others, while feeling secure within ourselves. It also creates a model of how we expect others to behave throughout our lives. in childhood when we were first developing our patterns of attachment, hurtful events we experienced may have led to insecure attachment patterns. In turn, we likely developed adaptations and defences within us that left us more guarded when it comes to getting close to someone else. Understanding our early attachment patterns and adaptations can have a huge impact on how we feel and behave in our relationships. Most of us have a “critical inner voice” that coaches us and lures us into self-limiting behaviours.  We come to any relationship armed with a tough inner critic and a complex attachment history, so there are bound to be ways we act in moments that we regret.

Everything from our early attachment patterns to the “critical inner voice” that formed out of experiences that hurt us in the past can start to inform how we perceive loved ones. We can start to accept other people as “good enough” rather than expecting a kind of perfection. When we’re close to someone, we sometimes forget that they are their own person with their own sovereign mind.  Our friend or partner may have a whole world of things going on inside them that we don’t fully understand, so we can try to have a little patience in allowing them to get through their struggles. By being less judgmental, we find new ways in ourselves to nurture a friendship and thrive in a relationship, both as an individual and as a pair.

 

How You View And Treat Yourself Will Affect How You Relate To Others.

Self-relationship is the connection you have with yourself. Your relationship with yourself involves self-awareness, self-acceptance, and self-care. When you are in a healthy relationship with yourself, you embrace your strengths and opportunities. You value who you are and what you’ve experienced. How you view and treat yourself will affect how you relate to others. The kind of relationship you have with yourself has an influence on those around you. When you have a healthy relationship with yourself, you’re more likely to know how capable you are and understand how to care for yourself during tough times. You may develop a sense you can handle obstacles and challenges.

The relationship we have with our self-concept can prevent our ability to achieve our overall desired level of satisfaction and happiness in our lives. Your relationship with yourself is often overlooked, it impacts every part of you and how you see yourself, how you treat yourself, and how you feel about yourself. It also influences every aspect of your life, including how you interact with the world and how you see the world, and what you believe to be possible for you in your life.

Alone time spending time with yourself may help you create space for self-assessment and inner work. Loving yourself is essential to have a healthy relationship with yourself and others. You may want to start by engaging in self-care.